19 years ago it was my dream to be in leadership at a
church. I readily did any volunteer work I could at the church I was at. I
looked and searched for other meetings that would suit my fancy. I was driven
by a hunger and brightness in my eyes. I was saved! I didn’t ever have Jesus
before and I felt alive to the things of beauty and sparkle. I quickly wanted
to Study the bible. Why? I wanted to learn about Jesus.
Several people at the time asked me why I would study
Religion, specifically the Bible in college, and my answer was simple and
unadulterated: “because I want to tell people about Jesus, and I want to get
paid for it.” I was in the brink of possibilities, I hadn’t experienced much,
other than the rapture of knowing Christ. It made a difference in my life. Big,
sparkly, tell the table you are bussing about God type of sparkles. It was a
time in which prayers with people gave me an afterglow, messages from the front
ended up as frantic scribbles in my bible, and Christian radio was chalk full
of content that I would quote to my friends.
I was driven, yet not driven to the point of going the usual
path. The path where you go to seminary, then apply for jobs and work your way
up in the church world, to finally become a part of church leadership. The show!
Head Pastor. No, I didn't feel that was the right way to go for me. The drive
was there, the desire to tell people about Jesus was there, but the climbing
part of the church world job market was one not for me. Actually that’s not
true, right out of college I bought myself an acoustic guitar, and applied for
a youth ministry position in Hillsboro. I didn't get it, their reasoning? I was
too conservative. So I did try once to climb that ladder,however it just so
happened I met Ken and Deborah, who started the bridge near the same time as
not getting the youth position.
Ken and Deborah and Crystal baffled my mind with the idea of
starting a church. My thinking at the time was “why would you start a church? There
are so many churches, why put out the effort to develop one more? Why not fix
the ones that are there?” Though these are questions that still would make for
a great topic. The fact was they started the bridge to Bring presence of God to
the young and disenfranchised and broken of Portland. Restore the arts to the
Church. Provide a future orientation for those with a broken past. Lead people
to a true-life healing based upon God's love and acceptance. Train people in
life skills. Provide an atmosphere of full equality for women in all areas of
endeavor. With the help of God letting me know that I was going to be at their
church, before it was a church. I found myself swept away in the excitement of
a new church plant.
In the seven years of being a part of the bridge I gained
experiences. I got my first Job out of College, I bought a house, I got my
second job out of college, I got married, I changed careers, I sold my house, I
moved to Northern California to start Bridge 2, I learned how to do freelance
design work in an island economy, I had my first failed attempt at starting a
church in northern California, I Moved back to Portland to live in an attic, I
got a divorced. Mame says “Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving
to death!” by the time 2004 rolled around I felt like I was the sucker of life.
And not in a good way.
Even a dream of mine of becoming a pastor, “making the show”,
had gone away. I told Ken probably 4 years into the bridge in a men’s group
session: “I don’t think that I want to be a pastor anymore. I see myself now,
and what drove me to that desired outcome and I think it’s pretty diabolical.”
You see I’m pretty sure most people that initially want church leadership are
usually dealing with some hard core control or power issues. I found mine to be
control. It’s why I feel out of sorts at a cocktail party, UNLESS I am
hosting. That position gives me legitimacy
in my feelings of I’m not worthy. In the infancy of my Christianity, the pastor
was the “host.” The person that had
everything together. I wanted that. I
shared this with ken, the reality of my own terribleness disqualifying me of my
dream. He listened
Later Ken told me it is that sort of awareness that
qualifies you again for this job. Laying down your dream or compulsion in a
reflective manner for the sake of those who you serve. When you are aware of
your pitfalls enough to keep them in mind and at bay while doing the very thing
that could abuse them. That is the paradox of pastoring correctly.
You see, growing up in my family, there was a lot of earning
and showing. You earned your love and position through correct behavior. You
towed the line so that you showed well, so that you could earn more love and
respect. This is not a picture of grace, this is a picture of getting what you
want by doing whatever it takes. Much of my relationship with God and issues
with control stemmed from this.
I wanted to be the good son. My legitimacy was found in
being the good son and it filtered down into the other portions of my life
where I found my legitimacy in being the good worker, getting the good house,
and ultimately having the top echelon of being “spiritually good.” Christ did this for me. And I had to walk out
the differences between being legitimate by having the right answers, and
philosophy, and simply being happy with myself. There is nothing wrong with having
good things, and doing good things, but when they are set there in the place of
you feeling ok with yourself, they are not so good.
So a funny thing happened 9 years ago when I pretty much was
in a non-qualifying place in my life. I was recovering from a failed church
plant attempt, divorced, scrambling, living in an attic, hanging on to God for
dear life, and the 10 year dream of making it into church leadership had been
set aside for good. At that time, Ken
and Deborah sat me down and asked me to come on staff. Now they didn’t know I
was as much of a mess as I was. Realistically I didn’t know I was that much of
a mess either. I remember them sort of kicking themselves for asking me mid-process.
But really it was where God needed to take me. It was a place in my life where
I wasn’t the good anything. I was the disappointment. I couldn’t leverage my
flawless record of sinless behavior, I couldn’t do anything but hang onto God
and say “I’m available.”
9 years later I still stand in the same place of
non-qualification saying “I am available.” I am here. I care. You are important enough to stand here and
tell you about my friend Jesus. Even before I came on staff I knew my initial
idea of “arriving” in church leadership was naive. 9 years later I have
developed a trust in God that is a necessity for this job, and I know for a
fact that there is no arriving. There is only the continual softening of a
heart that can become hard at any moment. Being right, being in control, and
not being the douche are not an option with this opportunity. The point is
allowing your ego to be soft enough to admit when you are in error.
Jesus taught me this. He taught me this by showing me that
God loves me even when I am a disappointment. He lets me know that my
availability is far more important than my qualifications. Jesus has taught me
that that there will always be poignant words on Sunday that call us to
becoming better people. And when I forget to be those kinds of people, Jesus
gives me another chance to begin again. Jesus is kind. He cares, and holds my
broken heart.
I have had the opportunity to serve this community for 9
years. And it continues to challenge me and grow me. It is a gift that
continues to refocus my life on the one thing that is most important: the seeking
of the kingdom of God. It’s all around us, and if we choose we can participate
in it. Which is what we’ve been designed to do.
Here's the video of the closing interpretive dance of my last 9 years
Here are my “best talks out of nine years”
Year 1 http://geoffreythebold.blogspot.com/2005/09/retarded-message_112656396425229917.html
So I have done some good reflection on the 9 years of me
being a pastor. And rather than bore you with stories… I thought I we would
play a game. Pastoral trivia.
year 1
You are a pastor of the bridge, You just preached a clever
message using the word retarded about 35 times in the message to illustrate the
deficiency of people’s love for each other without the lens of Christ. A woman
comes up to you sobbing by your message. As you talk to her you find out that
her brother was mentally underdeveloped, died at the age of 5 and it happened to
be his birthday today. Do you:
- explain to her how clever the use of the word is, and how you didn’t mean to have her remember such a hard memory
- say you are sorry, and hope she comes back
- say the sermon again because she apparently wasn’t listening
- meet with her later for tea, listen to what she says and buy a picture that she drew
The bridge got kicked out of its second building because:
- We couldn’t pay rent
- . Loveland didn’t agree with our statement of faith
- A supposed pastor came in and robbed and vandalized the space
- We didn’t do a good job cleaning
Year 2
You just Delivered a clever sermon entitled “serving ham” it
is about:
- Easter for the Gentiles
- The demise of noah’s son’s dreams of show business
- The pigs that the demons possess
- Serving ham
Your co-pastor takes a third of your church to start a new
church downtown. Do you:
- Bad mouth him behind his back
- Quit
- Don’t talk to him ever again
- Every 5th Sunday serve his entire church a meal
Year 3
Someone leaves your church and takes others with them
because your theology doesn't stand up to theirs. Do you:
- Say “thank God” for him leaving
- Treasure those people within your community that are interested in giving you the benefit of the doubt
- Bless the haters by sending them out to start a new church
- All of the above
The bridge got kicked out of its 3rd building
because
- Philosophy differences with the Mississippi ballroom
- The Dance Company needed Sunday mornings too
- The food attracted too many meth addicts
- We were too loud for the neighbors
Year 4
What was the most played bridgekids song
- Rihonna’s umbrella
- Deep and wide
- Kanye West’s Stronger
- This little light of mine
You just preached a clever sermon entitled “the little shits”.
Is it about:
- The time you pooped your pants running
- The time you realized you had a hole in your pants during gymclass for the last 2 months
- The dogshit incident
- The ministry of children
Year 5
How many people are at the bridge today that have gone through the journaling course that
was introduced 4 years ago?
You just preached a clever sermon answering why Christians are
so mean. Your answer was:
- Because they are not Christians
- Because they are filled with satanic tendencies at the time
- Because there are no real Christians, just those who say they are
- they have learned that it is better to be RIGHT than it is to be Christ like. They’ve learned to condemn and cut off others because of their beliefs, and would be happy to share their RIGHT beliefs with you so that they can justify that they are better than you.
Year 6
Who retired as a pastor of the bridge in 2011?
The bridge Was helped along its movement to its current
building because of what incident.
- The placement of “keep off the lawn” signs
- The writer of the shack couldn’t come back
- Bridge bio couldn’t be done from the balcony any more
- The BK lounge crowded out the rest of the church
Year 7
A buckeye is a ?
Year 8
you preach a sermon about sliming someone. What are you referring to?
- when it puts the lotion on its skin
- when you find you are too close at a ball game
- When you use the excuse of God to legitimize your stance
- when you are the holy ghost and about to do some bustin'
Who stepped down as a pastor in June of 2012?
Year 9
What was the product that sponsored the gameshow sunday of August?
- get on with your life
- dirtyolmouth
- divisive campaign
- shutthefuckup
What is the only thing you can get kicked out of the bridge for?
- not being thankful
- being a sexual predator
- not having your bathing suit area covered
- taking jello shots before worshipping